A matter of trust, how do I approach this situation?

Trust but Verify. The thing about shareing our LOVE is doing so safely. No person, school, goverment entity or religous organization teaches this. I can only tell you mistrust will festure and poisen a relationship. I would probably discretly check and then let her know I was concerned about her. honesty is peramont in a healthy relationship. The concern should show her I care for her. If she does not care enough for me to return with honesty and haveing looked before hand I will naturly come to the conclusion that my initial suspicions were justifed and I have a problem. If she was honest then no mistrust remains. Such situations will happen again and should promptly be addressed If the outcome is honest then a trust will finaly form. This is when a couple truly is formed. I may neglect informing her of the fact that I had already investigated the situation if I was satisfyed and she did not ask. I'm not trying to be dishonest only spareing her feelings and the subsiquent discourse. You will find when finialy secure in your relatoinship some secrets are not only okay but can be helpful. Somethings are better left behind. I have been married to the same woman 22 years and have never known her fathers name. Early on this seemed strange but in time I understood I did not have need of this knowlege. I love her and mention of him always caused her pain. I hope this helps and wish the best for you. Hard Drive